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Let’s Be Honest. Should Marriage Really Be Your End Goal?
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Nowadays, it’s hard to go on a date without being weighed down by expectations. When you add the “marriage question” into the mix, the pressure multiplies by tenfold.
Does this sound familiar? You met the “perfect” guy online who seems to have it all. Not only does he share your same hobbies, his values and interests align directly with your own.
Now, can you picture yourself marrying this man?
If your reaction to that question was “It’s way too soon to know” or “I’m not worried about that yet”, we’ve got a truth bomb for you. Whether you’ve consciously thought about marriage or not, it IS seen as an end goal for some people. And we get it.
When you get into a relationship with someone who doesn’t make his intentions known—and has never clearly defined his wants or needs—you take on a lot of risks. Sometimes, it doesn’t matter how hard you try to make things work; that question will hang over everything you do.
We’ve all been in this situation before and yet the answer still escapes us.
So we ask you this: Should you get into a relationship with the hopes that it will lead to marriage?
Dating expert Julie Ferman completely hits the mark when she says that the answer starts with YOU. She says that, “Culturally, in our world, it’s kind of expected that we should get married. It’s expected that we should have children. Not everybody wants to do that!”
Julie is right. Don’t base your goals on what society tells you. After all, it’s your love life. How can you expect yourself to find the one when you’re not certain exactly what it is you’re looking for?
Keeping a mental tab on whether your date checks off in the marriage department only puts unnecessary pressure on you, and will only hurt you in the end.
According to Pew Research Center, “53% of internet users [feel that] online dating allows people to find a better match for themselves because they can get to know a lot more people.”
That means that more than half of the participants believe that it’s possible to find genuine love online. This further proves that you should just let things happen naturally.
So here’s a challenge for you. Forget about those romance novels and every Hollywood film you’ve ever seen. If you start trusting your instincts, everything will fall into place.
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Marriage Advice All Wives Should Know – The Most Important words you can tell your husband
The Loving Wives Club
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The most important words you can tell your husband are “I Want You!” But to take your relationship to the next level add the words “More Than”. When you tell him you want HIM more than you want to read your favorite book, or to watch your favorite sit-com, you are really telling him that
HE is your man and priority! Follow up your words with action. Do this a few times and be prepared to see how much more committed he becomes to you and your family.
Visit: RomanticMarriages.com to learn more about how to get your husband to do more, be more and love more.
Marriage Advice All Wives Should Know – What Is The Most Powerful Thing In Your Marriage?
The Loving Wives Club
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What is the most powerful thing in your marriage? You are! Sometimes though women use their power to create distance instead of connection in their relationship. Many times when women are upset or ticked, they withhold sex from their husbands. Being upset is a human response, but if we are completely honest with ourselves, we need to recognize that withholding physical closeness sends him the message that we not only reject what ever he did that we felt made us upset, we are saying that WE REJECT HIM. Men feel loved through the act of physical connection. Withhold the physical contact and this says to him “she doesn’t love me”. Don’t use your power to punish your husband. Take some time and just a little space as you communicate to him verbally why you are ticked. You wouldn’t tell your 6 year old son, you won’t hug him or kiss him for 4 days because he spilled milk on your clean floor, so don’t doll out this same punishment to your man. He will emotionally disconnect from you if you do. Visit: RomanticMarriages.com to see how to keep him emotionally connected and for more marriage advice.