If I’m Such A Great Catch, Why The H*ll Am I Single?

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So you’ve always had a healthy self-esteem and are incredibly confident in both your personal and work life. And when it comes to dating, you have no problem playing the field and yet you’re still single.

Whenever you find someone who you genuinely connect with and want to take things further, he either pulls a disappearing act or changes his mind—leaving you back to square one.

What’s really going on here?

Trust us, we’ve definitely been there before. Feeling your confidence disappear after looking around at your friends and loved ones who are either married off or in serious relationships is par for the course. Seriously, anyone who has dealt with this situation knows that it’s one of THE WORST feelings in the world.

Why is it that even though you have your head on your shoulders, you can’t find love?

Society pretty much tells us that having a banging personality (not to mention being generally attractive) is all it takes to catch a guy’s attention. But after hearing Dating Coach Julie Ferman talk about the real reasons why being the perfect catch isn’t such a perfect plan, it’s obvious that there’s so much more to finding love than that.

Think about it like this. Would you prefer to date a guy who is super sexy (and knows it), doesn’t have the greatest qualities? Or would you rather be with someone who is super genuine, isn’t afraid of being honest about how he feels and is just an all-around great guy?

If you want to change your relationship status, there are a few things you need to work on FIRST.

Julie Ferman’s honest words are definitely a wake-up call! According to Public Radio International, “For the first time since the Bureau of Labor Statistics began tracking these numbers in 1976, there are more single Americans than people who are married.”

But if you’re still uncertain, the statistics don’t lie. Public Radio International also went on to say that “About 50.2 percent—or 124.6 million American adults—are single. In 1950, that number was about 22 percent. Singles have taken over—despite the rise of online dating.” Say what?!

So what are you going to do about it?

Instead of constantly worrying about whether he’ll say no, be proactive and go after what you want! Here’s the thing. If you’re really want to find love, you’re going to have to work for it.

But trust us when we say that it’ll definitely be more than worth it.

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Singles Guide to Surviving the Holidays (385)

Singles Guide to Surviving the Holidays (385)
(NewsUSA) – Being single during the holidays doesn’t have to feel like adding insult to injury. These tips from the dating and relationship experts at eHarmony Advice (advice.eharmony.com) can help you make it through the season at peace with yourself and your relationship status.
Holiday Parties
To bring a date or not? That is the question. You can always appreciate the company of a good date, especially if your plus-one is someone you truly enjoy. However, working overtime to keep your guest entertained is no fun, so don’t force an awkward date. The holidays can be a great time to widen your dating circle, so consider going stag. You’ll be free to mingle and can leave whenever you want.
Surviving the Family
Deflecting your family’s questions about why you’re single and when you plan to get married can be exhausting. With the proper mind-set, you can survive even the most insensitive family probing.
– Timing is everything: Decide ahead of time whom you want to see and how much time you want to spend with them. Then stick to your guns, and get out of any situation when you can’t keep your cool.
– Deflect and conquer: Your relatives will always find a way to sneak in a question about your dating situation -; well-meaning or not. Anticipate this, and come prepared with a response, such as “There’s no news in that area … but how’s your family doing?” Distract them from the original question. They may quickly disengage when they discover you’re not sharing any dirt about your love life. Consider that mission accomplished.
Surviving Yourself
If last year you were the Grinch from Thanksgiving through New Year’s, this year dive into the true spirit of the holidays.
– Be honest with yourself: Save any self-judgment, and instead, acknowledge your personal value, your accomplishments and the friends and family you love and who love you in return.
– Be good to yourself: Buy yourself a nice gift. Spend a night on the town with your most fun-loving friends, or put the dating ball in your court and log on to a matchmaking service like eHarmony (www.eHarmony.com) to see who might be compatible with you.
If you make these commitments, you might just find the holidays more enjoyable and your hopes refreshed heading into the New Year.
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