Being in a romantic relationship is one of the best things you will ever experience. Of course there can be low points, but the high points more than make up for them. Contrary to the myth Hollywood likes to put forward, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Now, if you’re a guy, then you were probably raised in a way that taught you to hide your emotions. After all, guys are supposed to be tough, right? Well, whether that’s true or not, your partner wants you to show your softer side. In other words, you need to know how to be affectionate with your girlfriend.
The biggest problem you can encounter is having different definitions of affection. For example, you may feel loved whenever your girlfriend tells you that she cares for you; however, your girlfriend may think “talk is cheap” and only feels loved if you touch her. So, if you are constantly telling her how much you love her, then it’s not counting as affection in her book. Does that mean you should stop telling her how you feel? Not at all! It simply means that if you want to be affectionate with your girlfriend, then you need to find out exactly what that means to her.
How do you find out what she needs in the way of affection? There are only two ways: observation and conversation. Observation means you need to pay attention to how she responds to various things. How does she react when you think you’re showing affection? Does she seem receptive, like she’s just going through the motions, or does she basically ignore you? The other thing you should observe is how she shows you affection because it’s a strong sign as to what she likes. Answering those questions will help you figure out what she values as affection.
But observation is only part of what you need to do; you also need to talk to your girlfriend. Most guys aren’t good at initiating conversation, but if there is a distance growing between the two of you, then you need to take a deep breath and have a good conversation about how you can do a better job of expressing your affection. Whew! That’s a long way of saying: just talk to her.” The real secret to figuring everything out is to use both observation and conversation. The reason for this is that people’s words and actions don’t always match up.
Okay, now comes the most important part…you have taken the time to learn what your girlfriend really wants as far as affection goes, and now it’s time to take action. This may sound obvious, but a lot of guys will go through the trouble of finding out what their girlfriend’s want, only to keep doing what they’ve always done. Don’t make that mistake! Start showing her the affection she needs and you will discover that the two of you are getting along better than ever.